May’s Intenion: Progress

I’m going to stop saying that “I can’t believe it’s a new {insert month here}”, because it being a new month is pretty predictable at this point.  The months just go faster or slower than we’d like.  Last months intention, acceptance, might’ve been one the most important intentions to me thus far.  My hope is that these intentions have the type of impact on your life that makes you change your views.  If we change our views we might be able to progress on to a higher thought process.  One where we lower our expectations of ourselves, one where we accept the amount of progress w’ve made no matter our initial expectations were, and one where we can reassure ourselves that we are doing the best we can under the circumstances that we’re in.  This month’s intention is…

Progress

You Make the Rules

I can not stress this enough progress is SUBJECTIVE, meaning that it’s based on our inner experiences rather than fact.  There is no timeline, continuum, or scale you should be strictly measuring your progress on. What happens when you don’t progress at the rate that you expected to?? I’ll tell you what happens… you end up getting discouraged and unmotivated because you think that not accomplishing a few things on your list by a certain time means it’s the end of the world. But what you’re failing to realize is that the timeline you’ve made for yourself is unrealistic.  It wasn’t made for you so consequently it is unattainable by you.

Are You Being Fair To Yourself?

Not only is it unrealistic, but your timeline is probably based off of someone else’s accomplishments and circumstances.  Your progress cannot be determined by what someone else has done.  You did the best you could in the time period you had, within whatever circumstances that you were in.  That’s it. No one knows all of the things that you have going on in your life, so it is no one’s place to judge.  However, you do know what going on in your life yet you still don’t cut yourself some slack.  Is that fair?  You have to make your own flexible timeline, that doesn’t punish you if you don’t meet your expectations when you had planned too.  

Be Flexible!

If you keep talking down to yourself, you will beat down the confidence and excitement that you had when you first started. Your low self-esteem will stop you from thinking that you’re capable of progressing any further.  This downward spiral is unnecessarily destructive due to the fact that it is quite possible that you can do the things you want to do.  Just not in the timeline that you’ve set for yourself. Do us all a favor and stop setting yourself up for disappointment, and start setting yourself up for success.  The way you do that is by setting realistic expectations and flexible timeline!

What Does Progress Mean To You?

I’m not one of those people who will tell you that the fact that you walked out of bed this morning was enough.  Because that’s simply just not true or maybe it is.  Only you know what you are truly capable of, but what you might not know is when you are pushing yourself too far.  I would like to say that you are the only one who will know when enough is enough when it comes to the amount of work that you have accomplished.  But when you punish yourself for the “lack of progress” that you have made it forces me to think differently.  My fear is that you don’t know when you are pushing yourself to far and to hard, and to me that’s what matters the most.  

How Far Must You Go To Feel Accomplished?

You can make yourself physically, mentally and emotionally sick from the pressure you put yourself under due to the “lack of progress” you think you’ve made.  So take this month to pay attention to how you’re treating yourself when it comes to how much progress you’ve made.  The only person who knows that you have done enough is you, you just have to believe it.  

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6 thoughts on “May’s Intenion: Progress

  1. This was such a lovely read. I agree, progress takes time and we should be gentle with ourselves and celebrate the small things we have been able to accomplish. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Thank you girl! Celebrating the small things is something that I am working on right now.

  2. I am not fair to myself in the slightest. Nothing is good enough and I am constantly setting the bar higher, with little chances for rest in between goals. Thank you for making me stop and take stock of this. Now, to actually do something about it.

    1. Setting expectations too high sets yourself up for unnecessary disappointment. Don’t disappoint yourself, instead realize that you are doing can within your circumstances.

  3. Thanks for this! I’ve been pressuring myself more than usual lately and feel guilty whenever I relax a bit. I should cut myself some slack and allow myself more leisure time. 🙂

    I’m still making progress, after all.

    1. Yes! We shouldn’t be punishing ourselves for relaxing, that isn’t fair to our bodies or minds.

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