June is a month that I feel like we were all catapulted into without any say. We simply just can’t control everything, and life reminds us of this every time something unplanned comes about. However, when it comes to the things that we do have control over, like our actions, we are unknowingly taught to follow and comply. This is so that things can run in the order that others see fit. I, like everyone else have been taught to follow as well, but when I truly started to think for myself I knew I needed to be defiant in my actions so that I can challenge the constructs that were made for me to fail. This month’s intention is…
Being defiant often has a negative emphasis to it, but it all depends on how you view it. Do you see it in a way that thinks being defiant means to have an open disregard or contempt? Or do you know that showing an act of defiance means to have a daring and bold resistance to an authority or to any opposing force. Let’s focus on the latter.
You Haven’t Done Anything Wrong
Defiance is a difficult thing to step into at first. The emotions of guilt, regret, and shame flood in when others take your act of defiance as a sign of disrespect. I have felt these emotions myself, and they are difficult to work through. This is due to the disapproving glare that people leave behind. This leaves you thinking that you have done something colossally wrong. When you disrupt the order that everyone follows they seem to turn against you. You’ve uncovered the facade that they live under, and now they have to deal with it.
We should all be challenged and uncomfortable. Being defiant to the constructs and systems in place is where it starts. You don’t agree with some thing? Speak up! You think that you’ve being wronged? SPEAK UP! You are not going to get the validation and approval that you seek just because you’re standing up for something you believe in.
We Should Be That Support
The most important thing to note is that knowledge is power, but it is also burdensome. Knowing that no one wants to support a cause where support is crucial can be strenuous. You are only one person, but your voice and actions have more power than you think. Small acts of defiance can go long way with the right intentions behind it.
Start by educating your family and friends on what you see is wrong with the things that are going on in this world. Be unapologetic about it. If you fear for their reaction then you never really cared in the first place. Even if the problems in this world don’t directly effect you, they are still worth fighting for. Often times the support of the people who are not effected matter the most. Let your voice be heard, it can hold weight where you least expect it.