I know the title sounds like I’m begging you just a bit, but bitch I am! In fact I’m more begging myself, because it would suck if I didn’t practice what I preached. You ever feel like you’re learning the same lessons over and over again? You ever feel like bad shit just keeps happening to you? The world is against you? Think everyone is out to get you? Sounds like a familiar feeling to me! I almost forgot about how everyone is to blame for your downfall except yourself! That’s a big one! All of these not so mind boggling questions have a common theme, and that my friend is called self-sabotage. You are most definitely not the only person who feels this way, but somehow you have tricked your mind into thinking that. Allow me to bring you back to your self sabotaging reality. Some of you might not relate to all of those questions 100% word for word, but even if you feel the slightest hint of one of them, you fall into the self sabotaging category. Welcome : )
Acknowledgment is the First Step
To me you never really know if you’re self sabotaging yourself unless someone calls you out on it, and then suddenly its like you were awakened from your self-sabotage trance out of nowhere. Well allow me to awaken you! However, if you feel like you’ve just been awakened and all this self-sabotage has just started in your life, I’m going to have to wake you up again to tell you that you’ve actually been doing this for a long time. Self sabotage builds, it doesn’t just happen all at once. You’ve been doing it for a while my love. But the first step is acknowledgment, so I’m proud of you already.
However, if you’ve done nothing about it because you don’t think it’s that serious then I take my admiration back. Self-sabotaging is more serious than it sounds, no matter what part of your life it relates too. I feel like if we think that if most of our life is going well we can push our self-sabotaging to the side because we think it doesn’t really matter. Well chile, try again.
Don’t you want to break the cycle of bad shit happening to you because it’s probably your fault? Or are you still in denial??? Take it from me, the universe is trying into teach you lessons that you keep ignoring. So you’re just going to keep ending up in the same situations over and over again until you realize that it’s not just a coincidence anymore. So how about we stop the self-sabotage and start the self-care, the self-regard, and the self-respect. Self care is not always going to be a hot bath with some candles and blunt after a long day. It can be exhausting, but worth it. Although, this is only going to work if you have to believe that you’re worth it, or else all of this will go to shit.
Pay Attention to Your Habits
This is not a “how to” stop self-sabotaging article, this is a WAKE TF UP AND START REALIZING YOU SELF- SABOTAGING TENDENCIES article. I can’t tell you how to stop self-sabotaging and anyone else who says they can are liars. I say this because we all self-sabotage in different ways and we all have to stop ourselves in different ways. I’m also not here to give you an easy way out because there is no easy way out of self-sabotaging. I’m here to be honest with you because I don’t want you to get stuck in this cycle of wondering why all this shit is happening to you. It starts with you and it ends with you.